You are new at something. Perhaps you are the new kid in town, new to a job, new to attend an event, new to meeting someone for the first time. You are likely filled with a mix of emotions. Perhaps you are excited, and also nervous. Part of you may even hear a noisy negative voice, filling your head with questions and doubting this whole “new” situation you are now in: Will they like me? Will they know I have no clue? Will anyone talk with me? Will I fit in? Will…what if…the list goes on and on. The need for belonging and acceptance is within all of us.
Regardless if we are an introvert or an extrovert, we can be filled with self doubt and apprehension to show up – physically or emotionally. We may even have a history of fleeting at the last minute or ghosting people all together. That cough came on really quick! 😉
While social, I have struggled with this throughout my life. Despite all the internal chatter, I have found that if I just show up, with an intention of holding open space for whatever happens, something good will come out of it. It just does.
At our home in Festus, Missouri, we have this chipmunk who is always looking for something good to come out of our bird feeder. He, like the squirrels and birds, let me know when I need to refill the feeders, asking for what they want. The chipmunk actually has some unique and admirable characteristics to note on this topic of interacting with others. Chipmunks are adaptable in their environment, are clever to avoid trouble and are energetic to move around without overthinking things. Within these traits, they also seem to be lively and fun when frolicking around with others, seemingly enjoying the moment they are in.
Perhaps chipmunks can teach us how to adapt, engage and chase what we want.
As we practice showing up as someone new, it teaches us that we have the power to adapt, engage and get what we want. Rather than allowing that negative inner critic to take over and keep you home with your fake cough, perhaps you can thank that part of you for trying to keep you safe, while still accepting the invitation to explore what may happen if you show up.
Stepping out of our comfort zone is never easy; however, it is nearly impossible to feel connected with a deep sense of belonging if we do not show up. Showing up to be genuinely vulnerable with others, and in situations will never be easy, but it is an itty-bitty step toward feeling more comfortable in any new situation.
This is a non-paid endorsement encouraging you to show up and feel at home in our fabulous Festus-area community. We are here to help quiet the inner critic and cheer on your inner chipmunk.
The next time you see a fearless chipmunk, I hope you smile as you channel the energy of your courageous inner critter.
P.S. Children going back to school may also need a little extra encouragement. Perhaps this can prompt a conversation.
Check out another writing with a brave and active squirrel who has taught me a little bit on being squirrelly:
Learn about a local non-profit organization who is overcoming negative perspectives/ready to help:
